A Bittersweet Victory: Autistic Tennis Player Wins Exclusive Necker Cup

becky-taylor1Becky Taylor, an autistic tennis player from the West Midlands, U.K., won the national Necker Cup tournament this past weekend. When you win a place at the Necker Cup, you automatically win a week-long trip to Richard Branson’s Necker Island, which is the site of the most exclusive Pro Am tournament in the world. What makes this so much more special is the fact that it was a mainstream tournament: The mental challenges that Becky faces every day made things 100 times harder as she battled for this well-deserved win.

Becky has been playing tennis for six years, and this was her third year trying for the Cup. She had just missed out on the Finals in the previous two years, but this year she won the regional tournament that took her to the next step in London. Becky got through the qualifying stage on Saturday and joined 11 other players in the Finals on Sunday. Becky then went on to win the Necker Cup for best female tennis player. She and the male winner would join Richard Branson for the Pro Am tournament on Necker Island.

It’s been a thrilling time for Becky, and she especially appreciates the support given to her by organizers Virgin Active UK and Gary Stewart. However, she’s had to turn down the opportunity to accompany Branson and other tennis pros and legends because of her autism.

“It’s sad because it was the chance of a lifetime, but just going to London to play in the Finals for two days was really hard for me. Staying somewhere different with new people…” Becky explained to AutismAwareness.com. “I have ADHD too, and I think I won’t be able to cope with all of the traveling. So, it’s a bittersweet victory, in a way. I won the prize of a lifetime, but because of my autism, it is not practical for me to go.

As sad and frustrating as this might be, Becky should be—and is—still proud of her wonderful accomplishment.

“I still won and that can’t be taken away from me.”

(This post was co-written with Becky Taylor.)

Teen Demonstrates the True Meaning of Sportsmanship

teen-athlete2Although many people these days complain about the selfishness of our youth, we read stories every day about children and teens going out of their way to help others. Such is this story out of Cedar Rapids, Iowa, where a high school cross country runner helped a runner from the other team cross the finish line.

However, this isn’t one of those news pieces where the entire team conspires to “let” a child with Down syndrome make a touchdown in football or a winning two-pointer in basketball. Instead, sophomore Evan Hansen was competing in a cross country meet for City High when he noticed that Adam Todd, a runner from opponent Cedar Rapids Washington, had veered off the course. Adam, who has autism as well as epilepsy, had gotten distracted by an ambulance.

To keep Adam focused and on track, Evan held his hand for the remaining 1 1/2 miles of the race, making sure Adam finished first. “It was pretty amazing actually. I kind of pushed him in front of me when he finished,” explained Evan. “I wanted him to be in front of me because he finished it by himself.”

While the teenagers took it all in stride, their coaches were both choked up by the action. “I can’t tell you the immense pride that I felt,” said Jayme Skay, Evan’s coach. “Because you coach 20, 30 years, and it’s moments like that, that make it all worth it.”

Adam’s father told ABC News 7 that Adam was happy to finish the race, and to know he has a friend on the other team.

He Sees Things Differently, and Wants Us to Also

photography5Adam Wolfers believes that autism has an impact on his son’s hobby. But he means a positive impact—not a negative one. Because his son Morgan’s hobby is photography, and he’s got quite an eye for it. “He has always noticed stuff that other people didn’t notice,” explained Adam.

Morgan is 10 years old, and was first diagnosed with autism at age 3. Morgan has had a hard time interacting with other people and has had meltdowns through the years. He admits to sitting alone sometimes. But, while his teacher notes that he “operates a little bit differently” than the rest of the kids in his class, she also said that the only difference she sees between him and them is that he “needs that extra clarification of directions.”

He has found that clarity and focus in nature, where he is attracted to the juxtaposition of colors and shapes in the flowers and plants and more.

Morgan not only has an eye for nature photography, he’s also started his own business. At the moment, he pays a local shop owner for display space on her shop’s wall. “I thought it was amazing that somebody so young would even want to start something up,” she said. “He’s one of our top sellers.” Ten percent of his profits go to the Blue Ribbon Arts Initiative, which supports autistic artists.

But he’s not in it for the money, explaining, “I’ve seen a lot of things that amaze me and I just want to share those things with others.”

One of his photos was even picked by National Geographic for display in the home of Vice President Joe Biden. Morgan’s reaction? “I was like, oh my God, I can’t believe it!”

His parents teared up as they recounted what his photography means. “This photography is kind of his saving grace,” explained his father. “Because it gets people to look past [his issues].”

“He’s going to make his way,” his mother Heather said, fighting back tears.

Morgan’s advice to all of us? “Try new things and explore your limits and what you want to do.”

In other words, don’t be afraid to see things differently.

Dallas Zoo Reaches Out to Boy Who Said He Has No Friends

dallas-zoo1Last week, one New Jersey father took to Facebook to share his son Christopher’s “About Me” project for his school’s Open House night for parents. Christopher, who has autism, filled out the project questions to include his favorite food, sport, TV show, and more. However, where it asked for the names of his friends, Christopher wrote “No one.”

By sharing the story, Christopher’s dad implored those reading it to talk to their children and have a real conversation about inclusion and empathy, and understanding. He asked that we help make stories of kids being kind the norm, rather than the exception.

This week, the Dallas Zoo — although it’s hundreds of miles away from Christopher in New Jersey — posted a video meant specifically for him. In it, two zookeepers, Sam Herber and Mary Marvin, extend some “Dallas love” to Christopher, with the help of an African porcupine. The animal, they explain, has a bad reputation because of its quills, but it’s actually quite friendly when you get to know it.

“We would love to see you come visit us here at the Dallas Zoo where you have over 300 employees and over 2,000 animals that would really love to get to know you and to be your friend,” states Herber in the video. “We would be honored to be friends with you, Christopher.”

This UPS Man Makes Very Special Deliveries

ups3Do you know that giddy feeling that you get when the UPS man drops a package off at your door? Even if you know exactly what’s in it, it can still feel like your birthday. So you’ll understand why 14-year-old Asher Schnitzer loves the excitement of a UPS delivery.

For eight years now, Asher, who has autism, has been on a first-name basis with Mike, the UPS man in his Phoenix neighborhood. And for just as long, he’s been calling Mike every morning to check on his deliveries.

“He asks how many packages there are, what’s in it and stuff and I just tell him you know I have one package and he’ll have to find out what’s in it,” Mike told Fox 10 Phoenix.

If he has a package for Asher, Mike tries to stay a little longer than his typical drop. Asher’s mom Raquel offers for Mike to come in and have some food. If there are no UPS packages for the Schnitzers or their neighbors, Asher asks Mike to drive by and honk. As long as he has time, he does just that.

Because he knows it’s important to Asher, Mike tries to swing by when he can, and he says he doesn’t mind the early-morning calls, either. “I just try to put myself in his shoes and his family’s shoes and all of that and just say hey you know it’s not really that big of a deal to take a phone call or do a little bit of extra, so why not do it,” he said.

“Whether it’s getting a package or the neighbors getting a package or just seeing Mike, that’s enough of a buzz for him that it keeps him going,” said Raquel. And Mike has become like one of the family, even celebrating Hanukkah with them.

Now that’s a pretty special delivery.

The Smith Brothers Use Boxing to Help Spread Autism Awareness

liam-smith4Although Liam Smith suffered his first-ever defeat to Saul ‘Canelo’ Álvarez in the recent WBO light middleweight title bout AT&T Stadium in Dallas, he’s far from a loser in our eyes. Liam, along with older brothers Paul and Stephen, and younger brother Callum, is part of a dynamic professional boxing family hailing from Liverpool, England. In 2013, the family made history when three of the brothers claimed the British light-middleweight (Liam), super-featherweight (Stephen), and super-middleweight (Paul) belts at the same time. Younger brother Callum is also a boxer to be reckoned with, with many experts saying he’s the best of the foursome.

The brothers all fight with the word “Autism” featured prominently on the back of their shorts. They do it to honor their 15-year-old sister, Holly, who was diagnosed with autism at an early age, and to raise awareness of the condition. “People don’t really understand autism,” says Paul. “Holly is a lovely girl but she can’t speak or communicate. So in our own way we are fighting for her.”

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Posted on the Smith Brother’s Facebook page

Callum told Boxing News that, while the four brothers inevitably draw inspiration from each other, Holly is a big driving force behind them. “To see her battling through life every day, but to also see her happy, is inspiring,” he says. “We wear ‘Autism’ on our shorts to raise awareness and show support for other families dealing with autism, because for my mum and dad it is like a 24/7 job looking after her. When she was first diagnosed we didn’t really know what it was. So when someone asks, I explain it. We’re doing our bit.”

And their fans are grateful. Liam told HBO, as part of the hype leading up to the Canelo match, “The four of us try and put it out there about autism and raise awareness… Every single day on social media we get messages…my kids got autism and I think it’s unbelievable what you’re doing for autism.”

We absolutely agree.

How One Boy’s Sensory Issues Helped Save the Day

alex-perez2Unfortunately, vehicle fires on the Garden State Parkway aren’t all that rare. Yesterday, however, a small school bus carrying seven children with special needs caught on fire along the major highway. Luckily, a potential disaster was averted thanks to one passenger’s sensory skills.

The bus was on its way home from Mount Carmel Guild Academy in West Orange, N.J., when it first started smoking. Thankfully, 10-year-old Alex Perez, who has autism, noticed the smoke coming out near the bus’s front door. He yelled out for the driver, who pulled the bus over to the side of the road. Everybody onboard was able to get out safely, thanks also to first responders, who were already on the scene. One child was treated for breathing issues, but otherwise, everybody was alright.

Alex told CBS New York that he sat in a police car for about an hour, watching the fire from the fully engulfed bus spread to nearby trees. However, he doesn’t think he’s a hero: “I was like the second hero,” he said. “I was like the sidekick, I guess.”

What we love about this story is not just that Alex saved the day, but that he likely smelled the smoke because of his sensory issues. As his mother, Michelle Perez, said, “He’s high sensory, so he can pick up smells, sounds really quick.”

In other words, Alex’s sensory “disorder” turned out to be a good thing–for him, the bus driver, and six other children. That’s pretty ausome.

 

Autism Eats: A Supper Club for Autism Families

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Photo from The Boston Globe

One of the hardest things for parents of a child with autism to do is go out to a restaurant as a family. Between possible anxiety over a new place, sensory issues with the environment, pickiness over the food, and the potential for a crushing meltdown present at any moment, many parents decide to just stay home. Some restaurants, such as Mary’s Pizza Shack in California, are helping by providing sensory kits to diners and looking for other ways to become “autism friendly,” but they’re not the norm. Enter Autism Eats.

Autism Eats is basically an autism-friendly supper club, started in 2014 by Leonard and Delphine Zohn. The Zohns had given up on going out to dinner as a family because their then-8-year-old son Adin was too unpredictable in restaurants. But they missed the “social aspect of dining out,” and started Autism Eats to have the best of both worlds: dine out with their family and dine out without stress.

“We knew exactly what didn’t work, so we felt if we could reverse that, we could bring a community together and allow everyone to be successful when they wanted to go out,” Leonard told the Boston Globe. “Many families feel it is not worth the effort, and they stop venturing out. It can be isolating and lonely.”

It sounds too good to be true, doesn’t it? Because the Zohns have firsthand experience on the issues associated with dining out with a child with autism, they know what to look for. They pick restaurants that can accommodate a large group, with management that’s flexible and understanding, and a setup that’s autism friendly. A variety of food is either served buffet-style or family-style, so that no child (or adult) has to wait to eat, and payment (including the tip) is taken in advance, so that nobody has to wait for the check when it’s time to leave. Additionally, potential sensory issues are addressed, with dim lights and quiet or no background music.

Families are able to eat in peace, in a nonjudgmental space. Parents may choose to interact with other parents and so may the children; but if they don’t, that’s OK too.

“I have been corresponding to [sic] hundreds of people across the country,” Leonard told The Morning Call. “The plan is to have Autism Eats clubs in every state that wants one and to offer dinners on a more regular basis.” According to the Tampa Bay Times, Autism Eats is currently in five states, with plans for 26 by the end of the year. Additionally, the group is applying for nonprofit status.

Upcoming meals include:

  • 9/24 – lunch at Filet of Soul Restaurant in Downington, PA
  • 9/27 – dinner at the Post Office Pub in North Grafton, MA
  • 9/27 – dinner at BJ’s Restaurant in Victorville, CA
  • 10/18 – dinner at Andolini’s Restaurant in Andover, MA

Please see the Autism Eats website for more information. If you’d like to start an Autism Eats program in your area, reach out to them via the website or their Facebook page.

One Football Player’s Sweet Gesture Goes Viral

Bo1The feel-good photo of the week has got to be the one of Florida State University wide receiver Travis Rudolph sitting at a lunch table across from 11-year-old Bo Paske, a student at Montford Middle School in Tallahassee, Florida. The photo, and accompanying story, went viral after Bo’s mom posted it on Facebook on Tuesday, to express her gratitude to Travis.

If you remember anything about the middle school years, you likely remember it as a time of change and, possibly, confusion. Peer groups change, education becomes more intense, hormones start raging, and the lunchroom becomes a minefield. Bo, who has autism, spends some lunch periods sitting with friends, but during most of them he just eats his lunch alone. His mom said, “he didn’t seem to mind,” but it hurts her deeply.

Travis was visiting the school with some other FSU Seminoles players as part of their community outreach program. After grabbing a couple of slices of pizza, he saw Bo sitting alone and asked if he could sit down at the table. As Travis explained to the Orlando Sentinel, “He started off and was so open. He told me his name was Bo, and how much he loves Florida State, and he went from there…He was a really warm person.” Travis really didn’t think much of it.

Until later, when somebody showed him what Bo’s mom had posted on Facebook. It read, in part: “I’m not sure what exactly made this incredibly kind man share a lunch table with my son, but I’m happy to say that it will not soon be forgotten… This is one day I didn’t have to worry if my sweet boy ate lunch alone, because he sat across from someone who is a hero in many eyes. Travis Rudolph thank you so much, you made this momma exceedingly happy, and have made us fans for life!”

Travis was moved by the post, and told ESPN: “I was just a kid not too long ago and I remember what the impact was of guys that played in college and in the NFL coming back to us…. So I feel like maybe I can change someone’s life or I can make someone a better person or make someone want to be great or be like me, or even better.”

Before he left, Travis signed Bo’s lunchbox. When his mom picked him up from school, Bo told her, “Mom, I’m famous!” And that was before the Facebook post went viral. The next day, his lunch table was filled with girls.

 

An Adventure of a Lifetime: Cycling Across America

Road School3I recently came across the Facebook page for Travis, Fiona, and Patch Saunders, an Australian family currently cycling across America. Patch, who is 7 years old, has autism and is largely non-verbal.

Patch was diagnosed at 21 months of age, and has received a wide array of different therapies in the time between then and now. As his parents explain on their blog—School of the Road—his “greatest leaps in learning have come from combining teaching with his love of movement.” He is what is known as a kinesthetic learner. Hence, the road trip, which will address Patch’s “love of the outdoors and curiosity about new environments.” The School of the Road curriculum for Patch will be determined by his interests, and what they see and do as they go along.

As Fiona explained in an interview, “So often there is a concentration on what your child can’t do,” Fiona said. “We want to give Patch the sense that he can do anything.”

The trip started in mid-July in Anacortes, Washington, and the family plans to finish up in Washington, D.C., by October. Along the way, they’ll cycle through Washington, Montana, North Dakota, Minnesota, Wisconsin, Michigan, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Maryland, and West Virginia, for a total of 5,000 kilometers. Travis is pedaling a specially designed semi-recumbent bike with Patch in the front, while Fiona is riding alongside on her own foldable bicycle.

RoadSchool1They’ve already traversed some amazing scenery, including the famed Going to the Sun Road in Glacier National Park, Montana and assorted high mountain passes. Videos and photos on their Facebook page tell an amazing story, complete with bison, the kindnesses of many strangers, and a lot of love.

Their goal is “to build Patch’s experiences as they camp in the wild, meet new people, and most importantly show him anything is possible.” Although they’re just a little more than halfway through the trip, I’m pretty sure they’ve already met that goal. Amazing.

To follow Patch and his parents on their trek, go to their Facebook page here.